bad community or unlucky?

[psycho pigeon]

The first is that when I try to join a game I'm (very) often kicked for being a "Noob". Well how the f... I'm supposed to stop being a noob if I don't get to play

You join a noob game, why the hell should veterans who want a challenging game have to play with a first timer? How inconsiderate of you.

Lastly the tone in the games is very harsh I must say, I'm by no means soft skinned, I have played a lot of online games and know the tone, but it just seems to me that there is less of a gentleman spirit in this game than other Strategy games

You seem like a really weird person and you expect all people to be the same (Marxist doctrine in your country no doubt).

Overall, you appear to be someone who has little gaming experience, someone who may play a few games then quit. I've played most strategy games and this 'gentlemen' spirit you talk of is nonsense.