For everyone having trouble using the regular pad. there is a second wireless controller set up.It will not show you the button lay out,but i found this on the net about these controls:
''there is a second layout for the wireless controller. (Strangely it doesn't give you a button layout but it's there). It switches the rudder control to L1 & R1 and the throttle to L2 & R2 and lets you use the right analog stick as a free look control. Since I don't have a flight stick I'm using this control method because I HAVE to have the throttle & rudder on separate controls. Having them both mapped to a single analog stick drives me nuts...''
''These are some of the button differences as far as I can tell:
Arcade:
Triangle: Bombs
Square: Rockets
Circle: Machine guns
X: Padlock view to target
L3: Change target (Hold to select mission target or something like that)
Simulator mode:
L3 - Flaps (combat/raised)
X - Set Trim
I think this control setup eliminates the quick map button so you have to press start to see the map.''
hope this helps and many thanks to JimmyCosmos on gamefaqs!