Seg,
The game has several shortcomings and some bugs, but the fighting system you are trying to describe, Smart-Pause-Mode, is
by far the best that has ever been made for a tactical game. It is realistic, violent and allows for
a lot of tactical decisions. It is
not RTS.
However, it does take some time to get used to and handle properly. You have obviously not reached that yet. Give it some more time, adjust some of the pause settings, and you will have a fantastic fight experience. Make sure you have cover, change positions, use short bursts to suppress your enemy and
do not get hit!
Pretty realistic, I'd say...
