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Gilly 05-11-2010 06:10 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Davedog74 (Post 158652)

ROCKEEEEEEEETS!!sorry

time and a place Dave, time and a place........and I think this is just the rocket powered outlet you may have been looking for. They chucked enough over from there a while back so I'm happy for you to chuck them back!!!

KAV 05-11-2010 06:37 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by dkwookie (Post 158607)
Aye I am in. When is St Crispens day again?

After Mcq and Kav told me before the match I made sure I followed them all the way guns blazing. Didn't give them the chance to self bomb.
This worked as it was a 3 v 3 medium altitude battle but low level or more players wouldn't provide time.
Lord camambert quit after about 4 deaths. Says it all

And I was stuck with Lord Camambert and Tagemandbandem as team mates. Up against Mcq, Gilly and Wookie. The Lord was wearing his headset and I curse myself for not being able to record his last words, as being chewed up by wookie and then bail for good out of the game..........


Suggestion for new Bombing session:

Fw190 f8 defending Berlin against B-17 and P 51 s.
Time: Night
Weather: Clear

Looks kinda like this:
http://s763.photobucket.com/home/kav...view=slideshow

bobbysocks 05-11-2010 06:58 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Davedog74 (Post 158652)
im chuckling away here,iv saved the high scores one tor the next deliberate anti bailer,got to keep my head down in here coz im partial to a rp3,but rockets anonymous is going well
as for the bombing one, the host should say no bombs please when sorting planes and weapons out in the lobby,and fellow lobby players should back him up,5 voices saying no is better than 1,if its the host -new lobby





ROCKEEEEEEEETS!!sorry

Dave is was saying rockets for the cheesers...only after the limberg starts to stink and you know. cheese for cheese...and id bet they cry foul!

McQ59 05-12-2010 08:26 AM

I guess I don't have to say I second the bombrun-idea... Nice one!

As for the mission you had to wingman Lord Camembert; What can a man say... In a way I wish I was the one to hear what he said before he chickened out. Had I only understood chickenfrench...

Gilly 05-12-2010 08:47 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by McQ59 (Post 158710)
As for the mission you had to wingman Lord Camembert; What can a man say... In a way I wish I was the one to hear what he said before he chickened out. Had I only understood chickenfrench...

I felt the same in the earlier game, harsh in a way that you had to wingman the 'grenouilles' muncher, great in that you knew you weren't the first, second or third target on our list!!!!

scottyvt4 05-12-2010 07:56 PM

i dont think ive had the pleasure of flying with these dudes appart from piednoir and azteca!!!!

dkwookie 05-13-2010 11:19 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by scottyvt4 (Post 158805)
i dont think ive had the pleasure of flying with these dudes appart from piednoir and azteca!!!!

Azteca is not a cheesy player as far as I am concerned. He gets personal and makes a point of not bailing sometimes but he is pretty fair. He is a lot less of a nuisance in realistic where his hurricane is outmatched by the spits.
Piednoir also seems like a good player to me too.

There's one player though who constantly sings "bad to the bone" over the mic. It's phycological torture on par with self bombing and on more than one occasion led me to get the iPod out

Gilly 05-13-2010 11:28 AM

Agree Piednoirs ok, admittedly doesn't bail but decent guy.
Azteca....no comment!!!

scottyvt4 05-14-2010 05:06 PM

ive flow with peid a few times .................. as above decent dude have heard others moan .............. hence the name drop lol!!!



Azteca made my life a misery on arcade so its nice to get some retrebution(sp) lmao

Gilly 05-14-2010 05:58 PM

Spoke with him last night Scotty after he messaged me about this thread. It's just been a language thing and not deliberate like some others. It is now not an issue......just keep an eye on your six!!!!!

Gilly 05-16-2010 10:18 PM

Stilton tactic of the weekend: watching some complete twat rocket his own team in a team battle just because in his words 'i love seeing that b17 go up with rockets'. What a primo cock

winny 05-16-2010 10:22 PM

Yep.. that's a good one.. Didn't the thought occur to him that he should probably be on the team opposite the 17's if he likes exploding them so much..?

That's feta.. stinky feta.

dkwookie 05-17-2010 01:17 PM

Stilton and feta are classy cheeses, this sounds more like Kraft processed cheese slices tactic

In the words of Alfred the butler "some men just want to see the world burn"

JOED70 05-17-2010 01:41 PM

HAhaha
Exactly and as long as you insist on using a B17 in team battles or dog fights .Between auto guners and fact that you more often then not will crash once you become to damaged thus stealing a kill for who ever pumped you full of holes I will rocket you or crash into you . It only makes it more sweet if you happen to be on my "team". Leave the B17 for Strike or CTA . Simple really if not eat rockets .

JOED70 05-17-2010 01:47 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by winny (Post 159348)
Yep.. that's a good one.. Didn't the thought occur to him that he should probably be on the team opposite the 17's if he likes exploding them so much..?

That's feta.. stinky feta.

Stinky feta is allway flying the B17 in Dog fights and Team Battles .

Mail order Goat and her Sheep screwing mates .

JOED70 05-17-2010 02:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gilly (Post 159347)
Stilton tactic of the weekend: watching some complete twat rocket his own team in a team battle just because in his words 'i love seeing that b17 go up with rockets'. What a primo cock

Why was the Twat flying a B17 in a team battle for ???

Oh its only wrong if some one else dose it . I think the syphillis from the sheep has rotted some ones brain

winny 05-17-2010 03:33 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JOED70 (Post 159420)
Stinky feta is allway flying the B17 in Dog fights and Team Battles .

Mail order Goat and her Sheep screwing mates .

I kinda agree that B-17's in dogfights are a waste of everyones time.. But shooting them down when they are on your own side isn't exactly fair.

Of all the people to do it to tho.. Expect your inbox to be very full very soon.. she bites. (I know this from bitter experience)

I've never shagged a sheep.

They are too hard to catch.

McQ59 05-17-2010 03:44 PM

Here we go again...

Shit!

Bailing... Yeeehaaa!

Davedog74 05-17-2010 03:57 PM

aah sheep rodeo,a good pair of trainers winny,and some velcro gloves,then its hold tight,here we go,yeeehaaaa

McQ59 05-17-2010 04:03 PM

LOL!

Ride'm guys!

dkwookie 05-17-2010 04:24 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Davedog74 (Post 159439)
aah sheep rodeo,a good pair of trainers winny,and some velcro gloves,then its hold tight,here we go,yeeehaaaa

Too much like hard work. I hear bo peep is easy

Gilly 05-17-2010 04:26 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JOED70 (Post 159419)
HAhaha
Exactly and as long as you insist on using a B17 in team battles or dog fights .Between auto guners and fact that you more often then not will crash once you become to damaged thus stealing a kill for who ever pumped you full of holes I will rocket you or crash into you . It only makes it more sweet if you happen to be on my "team". Leave the B17 for Strike or CTA . Simple really if not eat rockets .

Before you accuse others JoeD learn how to bail yourself. You only, as you put it 'stole' 5 kills from me, 3 from Bad and a couple from McQ yesterday during your little rocket powered wankfest

Zatoichi_Sanjuro 05-17-2010 04:51 PM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x9DplgzkrCo#t=1m06s

I bet Heinz Knoke is glad he never got demented messages sent to him like "LISTEN NUMBNUTS LOOSER!!! YOU ARENT ALLOWED USE ROCKETS LOOSER!!"

Gilly 05-17-2010 04:54 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Zatoichi_Sanjuro (Post 159444)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x9DplgzkrCo#t=1m06s

I bet Heinz Knoke is glad he never got demented messages sent to him like "LISTEN NUMBNUTS LOOSER!!! YOU ARENT ALLOWED USE ROCKETS LOOSER!!"

Did ol' Heinzy boy shoot down his own side??

If only you were as good in the air JoeD as you are at abusing people....

Zatoichi_Sanjuro 05-17-2010 04:58 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gilly (Post 159445)
Did ol' Heinzy boy shoot down his own side??

Was I implying he did?

f1rebrand 05-17-2010 05:27 PM

Haven't missed much by the look of things then. Who's saddling up on Friday?

RDR T-4

winny 05-17-2010 05:45 PM

Awesome.. Another Rockets, B-17's and ANGRY CAPS fest.

Anyway f**k all of that... Where do I get me some Velcro gloves in hurry.

Bo-peep is all mouth.

JOED70 05-17-2010 06:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gilly (Post 159442)
Before you accuse others JoeD learn how to bail yourself. You only, as you put it 'stole' 5 kills from me, 3 from Bad and a couple from McQ yesterday during your little rocket powered wankfest

Yha right Like I said Sheep Screw'n has led to syliphis rotten brain .

you Gilly I will never ever bail 4 because you are bigest hypocyrt in this comunity . Simple

BTW if my wheels come down it means Im bailing Have to press 3 buttons to bail one of them is select thus landing gear means a bail or at least an attempt

Only thing better then rocketing Branko is slaming the rockets into the nose or your spit as you try despertly to save the Cheating Mail order goat who is on the other team by the way . So save me your rightious indignation Like I said every thing is fine unless its done 2 you . I Have watched you fly a cripled plane for ever many many times . So shut the hell up about bailing. You just like to try and brow beat ppl to do something you and your sheep molosting playmates never do .

As for MCq and Badto bone .

If they have a problem with me let them bring it up .

Shadowcorp 05-17-2010 07:15 PM

Friendly fire is bad, no matter who it's against. It's something i've been guilty for in the past and something i do regret.
As far as bailing goes i only bail for guys whom i know bail, guess that puts you off that list JOED?
Rockets i enjoy using them myself but not on a team mate thats pure childishness.
Thats my opinion you don't have to agree thats the joy of an opinion

Gilly 05-17-2010 09:30 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JOED70 (Post 159463)
Yha right Like I said Sheep Screw'n has led to syliphis rotten brain .

you Gilly I will never ever bail 4 because you are bigest hypocyrt in this comunity . Simple

Only thing better then rocketing Branko is slaming the rockets into the nose or your spit as you try despertly to save the Cheating Mail order goat who is on the other team by the way . So save me your rightious indignation Like I said every thing is fine unless its done 2 you . I Have watched you fly a cripled plane for ever many many times .

As for MCq and Badto bone .

If they have a problem with me let them bring it up .

Don't bail for me Sir, by stating here so publicly that you won't only serves to demonstrate what a child you really are.
And if managing two head on kills on me with your cockets is what gets you off Sir, then fill your boots. Just a shame you don't mention the amount of times you 'crashed' to balance up your cocket killfest.
I'll converse with you via my MkIV from now on......

Gilly 05-17-2010 09:34 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Zatoichi_Sanjuro (Post 159446)
Was I implying he did?


I wasn't suggesting you did at all. I was merely posing a rhetorical question after observing what I had over the weekend.

McQ59 05-17-2010 09:40 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Shadowcorp (Post 159473)
Friendly fire is bad, no matter who it's against. It's something i've been guilty for in the past and something i do regret.
As far as bailing goes i only bail for guys whom i know bail, guess that puts you off that list JOED?
Rockets i enjoy using them myself but not on a team mate thats pure childishness.
Thats my opinion you don't have to agree thats the joy of an opinion


Well stated Shadowcorp.

I second that.

Gilly 05-17-2010 09:44 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JOED70 (Post 159420)
Stinky feta is allway flying the B17 in Dog fights and Team Battles .

Mail order Goat and her Sheep screwing mates .

Feta hypocrite maximus, what's that I see ahead....in a team battle no less
http://i941.photobucket.com/albums/a...l/52a9a2db.jpg

dkwookie 05-17-2010 09:59 PM

Scrap the bomb run, this seems more appropriate:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KOyQBSMeIhM

sloppy_clock 05-17-2010 11:11 PM

I've just had a read through this thread, thought I'd share my own thoughts on this.

Rockets in dogfights, not cheese tactics, they are hard to aim, unpredictable and unless your quite literately close enough to lick someones tail, unlikely to hit unless used in head-on.
Any moron that is stupid enough to go for a direct head-on against any war bird without using the rudder to angle their own plane deserves a rocket to the face.

Using a B-17 is indeed unfair. But then using this forum as a flaming tool and a basis to insult people from is not exactly good form either. Especially the above couple of posts. If someone is using a B-17 you will be able to see it in the game lobby, change your plane, change your weapons, change your tactics.

Bailing or quitting is bad, quite clearly. Getting angry and abusive at other players during a game because of this, is also bad.

I'm done.

bobbysocks 05-18-2010 01:18 AM

new forum rules. all disputes will be decided by fish at 10 paces.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IhJQp...eature=related

who wants cheese when you can have chocolates....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dy6uLfermPU

Shadowcorp 05-18-2010 01:33 AM

branko people are allowed to use rockets in BoP, its not the second world war; it's a computer game that includes aircraft that carry bombs and rockets, as such people are allowed to utilise whatever aircraft and load out they wish rockets and in your case turret gun bombers that need a rocket strike to take them out. At least rockets are forward firing.
I hit a fighter at 1600 ft with a rocket yesturday so it is possible albeit hard to do.
I hope that this thread gets shut down as i'm sick of irrational attacks on the use of rockets in what is very clearly a computer game and not world war 2.

dkwookie 05-18-2010 06:57 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Shadowcorp (Post 159526)
branko people are allowed to use rockets in BoP, its not the second world war; it's a computer game that includes aircraft that carry bombs and rockets, as such people are allowed to utilise whatever aircraft and load out they wish rockets and in your case turret gun bombers that need a rocket strike to take them out. At least rockets are forward firing.
I hit a fighter at 1600 ft with a rocket yesturday so it is possible albeit hard to do.
I hope that this thread gets shut down as i'm sick of irrational attacks on the use of rockets in what is very clearly a computer game and not world war 2.

I just cant agree here. If I realise someone is on my tail in a fight and they are using guns, I have a chance to evade and engage in a dogfight with him. With rockets more often than not the first you know they are on your tail is when you explode. No chance of engaging, no chance of evading, just instant death. Same with a head on run. If its two planes with guns it becomes a joust, with one plane carrying rockets it becomes the charge of the light brigade.

If someone is in a bomber I don't need to worry about them sneaking up behind and getting an instant kill or I can choose to ignore the bomber if I wish. If I want to engage the bomber I wont attack it from its 6, I will use a high energy dive on its roof.

KAV 05-18-2010 08:37 AM

This game has several options.
One of them is to join a game session, or not.
Before one choose to join a game session, one has to join a lobby.
Attending the lobby, one can see the settings for the session and other players who has joined the session.
If the settings for the session, or the players are not to your likings, one have the option to leave the game.

For those who are not able to either hear or read messages of sessions settings, or in other ways insist to obstruct other players private sessions and games, please stop doing so.
To those who has issues with other gamers, stop joining their games.

Fly in peace, and enjoy BoP.

Gilly 05-18-2010 08:47 AM

I just wish to state that I do not have any issue with rockets per se. If rockets are your bag then get stuck in. What I do have an issue with, and why I originally posted, was the team killing. All this served to demonstrate was the fact that the player firing them had serious issues to want to shoot team mates. I deliberately did not name names in my original post as I just wished to gauge opinion as to what I had observed. Sadly though it got blown out of propotion and led to myself and many other players recieving abuse from the player involved. All this leads me to believe that there are issues outside of this game that perhaps they need to deal with. I would never consider lowering myself to that level and personally abusing them on this forum as most, save for one, are decent, respectful players of the game. I'll do my talking in the air.

I would also like to invite any player who has any issue with me to here and now state as such. I personally believe I try and play this game within the spirit in which it is meant but I have been called a hypocrite by one particular player and would like to know if indeed this is the case or whether it's just sour grapes. I am aware of many of your thoughts already as you have emailed me or messaged me via the psn network and I appreciate your honesty and comments.
Thanks,
a rather pissed off Gilly

dkwookie 05-18-2010 09:15 AM

Gilly in all the games I have played with you I have never seen anything to suggest you are anything but a fair and valued player.

To me these arguments flair up due to the shrinking community. We have fewer targets and kill each other multiple times per match, which leads to frustration as we are all vets and some don't like being shot. We take the game perhaps more seriously than we should but that's because we love the game and it's subject matter.

I don't agree with rockets air to air use, some don't mind. The game let's them be used for air to air so as has been said, if players want to use them so be it.
But these fall outs always seem to stem from rocket use. I havnt seen any arguments amongst players about being gunned down

winny 05-18-2010 09:40 AM

Rockets.. Not bothered one way or another. I don't use them in D,TB or CTA.

My main problem with BoP online at the moment is the Bailing issue.

I've been in games where members of this forum (some on my friends list) have basically bullied people into bailing. 'If you don't bail me and my mates will f**kin kill you' type shit. Not my thing. At the end of the day you can't police a game. Everyone on here is more than capable of holding thier own in the air.

If you wanna single someone out for not bailing then that's up to you . I just don't like the verbal.

The rejection of individualism is fascism.

I'm off to go and try and raise £220 because my F'in PS3 has f'in YLOD'd again.. I have a copy of Red Dead waiting for me too. Bugger.

JOED70 05-18-2010 10:46 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gilly (Post 159493)
Feta hypocrite maximus, what's that I see ahead....in a team battle no less
http://i941.photobucket.com/albums/a...l/52a9a2db.jpg

See its no fun if some else dose it my point exactly . But what I remember from that match is Gilly Crash Gilly, crash Gilly Crash, Gilly Crash . Even though it was my poor slaughtered teammates that were doing the shooting at them .

Oh branko as for the no auto gunners the reason I team killed you was a wanted to test your gunnery skills 3 times you could not even hit me . So sorry you blind old bat . take way target lock and auto gunners and you aint got shit .

sloppy_clock 05-18-2010 10:52 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by branko57 (Post 159520)
JOED, compare to you, these guy's have HELPED & TEACHED me a lot with my first game ever :!:

Since September'09 i have seen countless "BLUBBERMOUTH'S" coming and going, but these fine guy's and ME we are still here, cause we love vintage warbirds and we dont care about some "EGO RANKING POSITIONS" or any of those worthless awards we get here :!:

JOED, whatever went wrong with you in the woods there is no excuse for your actions, not here or at the game :!:

Branko,

As I said in another thread you are using and riling up this community. I have been here since the start and being honest, we have never had a thread like this before, and never had people type like this before. You cannot talk about not caring about ego ranking positions and then come onto this forum and spread your word of hating around on this thread and others. There is no excuse for your actions here, you are acting like a young child that is intent on causing mischief.
If you are unhappy with how people play, keep it to yourself and do not degrade this forum by using it as a platform to slur others. People like yourself will ruin the online community by getting angry and causing trouble on the forum and in the game, while most of us can just chuckle about the tactics that others use.

All in all Branko, please, grow up a little.

Gilly 05-18-2010 10:58 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JOED70 (Post 159586)
See its no fun if some else dose it my point exactly . But what I remember from that match is Gilly Crash Gilly, crash Gilly Crash, Gilly Crash . Even though it was my poor slaughtered teammates that were doing the shooting at them .

Oh branko as for the no auto gunners the reason I team killed you was a wanted to test your gunnery skills 3 times you could not even hit me . So sorry you blind old bat . take way target lock and auto gunners and you aint got shit .

I believe the only actual crash during the above game was when you managed to shoot me down in your B17 and the wreckage hit your plane causing you to crash. But as I took screen dumps everytime either you or I died it will be an easy thing to post them all on here. There is one admittedly when I did bail and it showed as a crash but I have the spit in a screenshot showing it still in the air with the tag underneath as I expected you to call foul. I also have them for the cta game previous where you team killed kav with your P47 cockets. You wanna play like a dick....let's go

JOED70 05-18-2010 11:23 AM

Lets see them I know for a fact that you crashed at least 4 times and I made a point of staying away from the frey at that point . You never crashed into me . I must comend you on on the left front quater passes though they were very effective against the B17 2 out of 3 times resulted in engine destroyed in pass . As for the team kill against Kav in CTA that was not a rocket it was a bomb drop meant for the Il2 that was pulling up behind him.
Accidents due happen . but once again if Kav has an issue with it let him speak to it .

As for Auto gunners on B17 testing I have done in training result in this realistic.

One B17 12 Bf109-g6
on easy 1 b17 death = 7-8 109's
on hard 1 b17 death =4-6 109's
on expert 1 b17 death = 3-4 109's

All with little or no effort on the players part .

JOED70 05-18-2010 02:56 PM

Yha what ever i dont care about wining it has no effect on me one way or other . But your bullshit excusess for what is by far the bigest exploit( cheat) in the game . Have been exposed . Once again how come if yours such an expert could you not hit me at all with out target lock or auto gunners.

Now go back to stealing candy from kids or pulling the wings off insecets .

I bet the only way you can have any enjoyment at all is if a machine dose the work for you now go change the batteries in your vibrator.

JOED70 05-18-2010 05:09 PM

Your still oblivious to the point that Its You !!!!!! that is the problem .

BTW in the post about rocket use aginst bombers I was specificly referning to a strike serriies that I would be hosting for people who need to unlock aircraft or weapons .

Think ive been pretty constitant with fly a bomber in Team Battle or Dogfight

And be prepared to eat rockets .

As for so called teamkilling Shooting you down is not teamkilling .

As for me flying the the B17 in "1 " team battle yesterday It was done purely for the effect i knew it would have . Like I said befor only when some one else other then the livestock fornicators is it wrong.

I would never have a cheating lazy bullshiter on my team .
I was simplly takeing out the trash. I knew it would result in you running away screaming rockets no fair !!!!!! Now my flying automatic pillbox cheat is useless .

Still no answer about why you could not hit me if you have such skill 3 times I flamed you with out you even getting a hit .

So much skill that you can only fly something that dose all the work for you .

But so typical for a mail order bride been a parasite your whole life . Let some else do the work and Ill just con them out of thier rewards .

Btw I have never ever said I was Super skilled at this VIDEO GAME!!! or any other for that matter.

What I do state is that Im 1 Honest , 2 Fair ... Fair .. Fair ..

JOED70 05-18-2010 06:17 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by branko57 (Post 159647)
Holy bucket, i had no idea he did this to "KAV" too !!!

Read you stupid cow or ar you too lazy for that as well I said it was a bomb drop that acidently hit Kav . Besides if kav has any issues let him bring them up . Once again finger pointing only when it is some one else . Why dont you give all this up and go back to scouring the internet dateing sites looking for the poor old next fool with one foot in the grave so you can steal his childrens inheritance . It is after all what you specialize in .

Oh btw Still waiting for the screen shots . That dont exist beacuse if they did they would show Gilly Crash Gilly Crash Gilly crash .

bobbysocks 05-18-2010 10:04 PM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7IU1bzZheWk

bobbysocks 05-18-2010 10:38 PM

do you get posting/email rage??
 
Do you get e-mail/posting rage?
By Nance Guilmartin, CareerBuilder.com
May 3, 2010 -- Updated 1312 GMT (2112 HKT)

When was the last time you were driving down the digital highway and felt like you were shot by words?

It happens without warning. You're scanning e-mails or a posting and suddenly you're triggered by someone's words or a tone you sense -- or even see; the e-mail/post is filled with "ALL CAPS" or "Exclamation points!!!" or bold formatting.

Or, here's another hot button: You're in the midst of a public "drive by" e-mail attack, where out of the blue, someone writes an e-mail (without speaking to you first to check their assumptions) and reacts to something you said in a meeting or that you wrote or did. When you see the long list of CC-ed recipients you become furious and shoot back your own defense or offense.

Why does this happen?

Today we're more wired to snap -- especially when using computer keyboards. There's even a physiological trigger pulling us into e-mail shootouts; it's called "e-mail apnea."

Thought leader Linda Stone, formerly of Microsoft and Apple computers, coined the phrase after researching a phenomenon she observed while people were under the influence of computing. The urge to quickly react (without considering what you or they may have misunderstood) can affect you -- whether you are the person sending the initial e-mail or the one who receives it.

Stone noticed we hold our breath while cranking out e-mails and doctors confirmed her suspicions. When we hold our breath, the brain is momentarily oxygen deprived and hits the flight or fight response, fueling a more emotional reaction to the words shooting out of our fingers.

What can seem like innocent or understandable venting can cost you your job, damage your reputation and crater your chances for promotion. According to a recent USA Today article by Laura Petrecca, 26 percent of the nearly 600 companies participating in a 2009 Electronic Business Communications Politics and Procedures Survey said they'd fired an employee for e-mail misuse.

What can you do to avoid getting caught up in a drive-by e-mail? Here are five ways to make a U-turn when the inevitable "missed understanding" happens.

Before you fire off that e-mail, try these tips:

Back away from the computer

Resisting the urge to just "let someone have it" is a sign of self-control and adds points to your reputation. You also raise what I call your "CQ score" of communication intelligence by responding versus reacting.

We all need to vent, and e-mail is an instant venting machine. Just don't set yourself up to be fired by what you write when you're fired up about something. Write it, delete it or park it in your draft box.

Vent offline

Ask someone to (confidentially) give you perspective that you can't see when you're blindsided or when you're positive you're right and someone else is wrong. You might be right and win the battle but lose the war. The damage, however, isn't easily undone once you hit the send button.

Give people the benefit of the doubt

We often assume we know what someone meant or intended. I call that "assumitis." Instead, rephrase it (in person or via e-mail) using your own words. For example, "It sounds like what you are saying..." or "Let me see if I follow what seems to be the problem here." You'll learn more and increase your CQ as well as your ability to be more responsive and less reactive by surfacing what's between the lines (without instantly explaining or defending yourself).

Adopt a get curious outlook

Ask, "What am I really reacting to? What's driving the other person to do this?" Then call or go see them in person. Begin by appreciating how easy it is to be misunderstood. Acknowledge that aggravations can pile up and trigger an e-mail volley that leaves a trail that can cost you both long after you wished you'd paused to ask yourself, "What don't I know I don't know?"

You're more valuable to your clients and your company when your high CQ skills turn you into a problem solver and time saver in a world where time and relationships are priceless.

bobbysocks 05-19-2010 12:14 AM

my dear if your german needs work. may i suggest google translate or rosetta stone. however, no one should get upset over posts and threads. i am certain everyone can come together and in an intelligent way work out thier differences. after all we are intelligent and rational beings. miscommunication is the #1 reason for arguments and factioning. i just want eveyone to get along do you?

bobbysocks 05-19-2010 01:00 AM

well please excuse me but i am a part of this community and i share in its problems and resolutions. this thread is on "CheeseTactics" and is not specifically for PS3. so as an open forum i can contribute. who cast the first stone is not as important as who casts the first olive branch. dont you agree? to put aside our feeling in the scope of making it a better place...and appreciating eveyone's differences. i know you want this too. to argue is silly.

and your german...what you quoted me was "lick me where the sun never seems!" i know english isnt your first language but the saying should be "Kiss me where the sun does not shine!" or in duetsch... "Kiss mich wo die Sonne nicht scheint!" the way you said it sounds goofy...

trk29 05-19-2010 05:33 PM

Please quit with the criticism.


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